Today was a hard one for me. Another Friday has come and gone without a birth certificate. I think what makes this hard is 1)I am continually told that we will have it “by Friday” 2)This isn’t supposed to be the long part of the process. So, if this is the fast/short part, what does that mean for the rest of the process?

It seems like we are asked daily when Coen will be home. In the beginning, I was saying 2-3 months as that was what I was told. That would have had him coming home this month. At this point, I think we will be very blessed to have him home in the next 4 months. Passports seem to be taking 2-3 months and visa appointments which used to be scheduled just a week or two out, are now being schedule 1-2 months out.

I know he’ll come home when he is *supposed* to, but it doesn’t make it any easier to miss these precious months of his life (especially when I just got back from the the hospital where I held a 3 day old baby).



  1. I can only imagine how hard this is on you both, and I think you just may need to get on a plane for Ghana again to hopefully speed things along….what'cha think?
    Gramma Cupcake

  2. I so feel your ache and wish that I could help make it all go faster…btdt too many times myself. I have enjoyed getting to know you and I am blessed to be able to watch your adoption journey. I am praying for you and for the adoption to speed up.Let's get that boy home.

  3. Hang in there Heather! It is hard, but God works on us in so many ways during the wait.

  4. How frustrating, paperwork with adoption is such a pain and so ridiculous! Governments don't care that a poor innocent child is waiting over there when they could be home with their forever family. Sending prayers you way that progress is made soon!

  5. He'll be here soon, then this will all be a bad memory of waiting. I know it will all fall into place soon;)

  6. I feel your pain! I really hope it speeds up for you! We had to wait a little while for ours to be corrected, but it wasn't too incredibly long. I hope things start going as fast as possible. I totally understand how hard it is to wait!

  7. Oh, this just sucks, Heather. Waiting is torture in such circumstances–it's the hope that is killer. I have no words of comfort other than to say that the waiting will eventually end and you will get to smell his sweat little neck again soon, but I know how not-so-comforting that feels when you are in the trenches.

    And for whatever it's worth, I hear you on the baby thing. I went to great lengths to avoid holding other people's babies after the wait drug on. Not to be mean, or unloving, simply out of self-preservation. I kept saying that OF COURSE I could cradle someone else's baby in my arms–how silly to think otherwise, right?! I was genuinely excited and happy for others and their new babies, but every time I did the hospital visits/baby showers I ended up in a pool of snotty tears on the car ride home. You know, hyperventilating and crying the ugly cry. 🙂

    Hugs, hugs, hugs to you.

  8. Um, oops–I meant sweet. Sweet sweat. 🙂

  9. I am so sorry that this journey is taking the roundabout route. I pray that this part of the process is the hardest and that everything will fall into place and that your new baby boy comes home very soon.

    ~Nadine in Nevada

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