Ok.. I’m writing this about a week after the fact as it has taken me that long to be able to write about this.
Since I last wrote about Ghana and Little Miss, we have had nothing but more heartache from this new agency (email me if you want to know who they are). I talked with the director on Wednesday, December 1st and was told that he would talk with the rep in Ghana and call me the next day at 10 a.m. He did not call the next day (and when I called he was not in the office) and he did not call the following day. He finally emailed me Friday night and said that there would be a teleconference with everyone MONDAY EVENING. Obviously, I called Tuesday at 11 a.m. figuring that was plenty of time for them to have called me to fill me in.
I couldn’t get a hold of him all day. I finally talked with his assistant director who confirmed my fears. She agreed that the director was unprofessional and that he had over promised. She also said she didn’t know why he would match our family to this little girl without knowing her social history. For all we know, this little girl’s photo was just taken off a charity’s website. Basically, she told me that we definitely should not feel comfortable working with their agency.
About 1/2 hour later, the director calls and tries to get an attitude with me for asking so many questions. He informed me that he was the industry leader for adoptions (funny because NO ONE in the industry that I’ve spoken with has even heard of him or his agency). I calmed him down and let him talk about how great he is for another 1/2 hour. Chris got home shortly after and we made the difficult decision to not work with him. Don’t get me wrong, it was easy to say we wouldn’t work with him, he was an idiot, but he is the only one that would be able to connect us with Little Miss. I guess once a child is assigned to an agency, that’s it. Every time I get upset about her being over the alone and remember that we have no proof whatsoever that she even exists or that she doesn’t have a mother loving her already.
In the course of the last few weeks I’ve been communicating with 3 other agencies that work in Ghana and they have all been so much more helpful then this guy. So, this past week we’ve been working with them to decide which agency to switch to as we have decided to stay with Ghana and our current agency does not work in Ghana. Why not go back to Ethiopia? Well, we could, but also in the past few weeks there have been announcements about concerns from the US which could mean instability, delays and more frustration for Ethiopia.
We feel like this happened for a reason and we are supposed to be looking for our child in Ghana. We’re at peace… for the moment…
It sounds like this agency doesn't know what they are up to. Do you mind sharing who it is? I might be able to ask ours if they know anything about them. Did you check the DHS list to make sure they were certified to be doing adoptions? In all three of our adoptions I' have been glad to work with people that I trust… very very important to me. As you have witnessed it is a hard and long road, good people to help are important.
I feel for you though knowing that someone is over there needing your love and hugs! We are praying our little girl stays safe until we can go back to bring her home.
Prayers that the Holy Ghost will guide you in your decisions and process. We have said many Novenas to the Holy Ghost for our process, you are welcome to the Novena if you want it.